Doing or Don’t-ing?

The Christian community I was once part of seemed to emphasize what we as Christians don’t do. We don’t dress like that. We don’t listen to that kind of music. We don’t watch those programs. We don’t play those games. We don’t use that kind of language. Any new fad was viewed with suspicion and placed on the “don’t” list.

During part of this time I had a job in retail sales. I wanted to be a good testimony. I definitely stood out as I politely said no to invitations to places I didn’t feel comfortable going with my coworkers, as I quietly absented myself from certain conversations, as my style of dress was noticeably different from that of others. They knew I didn’t do a number of things: some were even kindly protective of me, careful not to put me in situations where I might be uncomfortable. I couldn’t help but wonder, however, what these actions (or inactions) indicated to my coworkers and customers. They knew I was “religious.” But could they tell the difference between me and an adherent of any number of other religions? They saw my standards, but did they see my Jesus?

The Bible does have a lot to say about what we should not do. God’s command for our holiness filters down into every part of our lives, and our love for Him does influence our choices of dress and entertainment. We need to understand what things are wrong. We need to realize we’re innately drawn towards wrong. Paul said, “if it had not been for the law, I would not have known sin. For I would not have known what it is to covet if the law had not said, ‘You shall not covet'” (Romans 7:7). It’s important to remember the Bible’s warnings against sin. Some people fall off-balance by minimizing or even overlooking the “don’ts” in the name of love and positivity or an effort to be inoffensive.

But the Bible doesn’t stop with a list of “don’ts.” “So flee youthful passions,” 2 Timothy 2:22 says. But it goes on to say, “and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”

Colossians 3:5-9 tells us to “ Put to death ” or “put away” “sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry….anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another.” The reasons given: “on account of these the wrath of God is coming” and though “you too once walked” in them, “you have put off the old self with its practices.

But then verses 10-17 continue: “...and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.”

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Ephesians 4:17-32 has similar instructions to “to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness” (verses 22-24). We trade lying for truth (v. 25), stealing for honest work (v. 28), corrupt talk for edifying words (v. 29). We don’t let anger linger (v. 26), and we replace bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, and malice with kindness, tenderheartedness, and forgiveness “as God in Christ forgave you” (vv. 31-32).

We’re not aiming just for “positive thinking”: we’re seeking a balanced focus. “Putting on the new” not only keeps us balanced, but it actually helps us put off the old. We have known of preachers who have fallen into sexual sin after years of preaching against it. Surely a number of factors contributed to their fall, but one may have been an undue focus on the forbidden. Erwin Lutzer shared a helpful illustration in How to Say No to a Stubborn Habit: if someone tells you not to think of the number eight – suddenly that’s all you can think about. The more you try not to think about it, the more it fills your mind. But if you start thinking of other numbers or working equations, you’re distracted from eight. Likewise, if I try to diet by repeating to myself, “Don’t eat chocolate cake,” my mind is filled with chocolate cake and I am likely to give in and have some. But if I turn my thoughts toward other things I can eat, chocolate cake lessens it’s hold on me, and now I can focus on the positive, on what I can do rather than what I can’t. Years ago I read in a forgotten source about “chastity meetings.” The author didn’t elaborate, but evidently these meetings were held to help young people make a decision to pursue purity. His wise advice was, “Have your chastity meetings, but then go on to another subject.” If every single week these young people were warned about sexual sin and urged to avoid it, their thoughts would be filled with it just like mine would be with the chocolate cake I needed to avoid.

Concentrating on “doing” rather than just on “don’t-ing” not only helps us avoid sin and pursue good, but it presents a better testimony. If all we talk about is what we don’t do, we sound either curmudgeonly or self-righteous. Pursuing the positive also creates joy in Christ rather than mourning what we can’t do.

But we don’t follow a list of impossible good works in order to gain favor or rack up points with God. We focus on these good traits not to become righteous but to demonstrate that God has changed us and made us righteous. The Ephesians passage mentioned above says the goal is to  “attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ” (verse 13). It also says we effect these transformations by being “renewed in the spirit of [our] minds (v. 23) and because that’s the way we have learned Christ (vv. 20-21). Romans 12:2 tells us “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” Colossians 3:10 tells us our “new self…is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.

We learn to reflect our Savior by beholding Him: “And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit” (2 Corinthians 3:18). He works these changes in us as we behold Him in His Word, as we study Him and get to know Him better. 

(Sharing with Inspire Me Monday, Literary Musing Monday, Tell His Story, Let’s Have Coffee, Woman to Woman Word-filled Wednesday, Porch Stories, Faith on Fire)

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19 thoughts on “Doing or Don’t-ing?

  1. Amen!! As we feed upon His Word, His Spirit changes us from the inside out. Awesome, awesome God we do have. Thank you Barbara for this article (reminder). May our Lord Jesus flow from us to those around us.

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  3. A wonderful post, Barbara. I am afraid that there was a time in my walk when I was concerned more with the outward because it was what I was hearing from the pulpit…all of the don’ts. I’m so thankful that as I’ve grown in His Word that He has been transforming me because of my mind being renewed. I like Colossians 3…such wise counsel there.

    • Me, too, Dianna. I think some who taught that way really meant to reach the heart rather than just the outside, but I don’t think they realized they emphasized the one over the other.

  4. “Concentrating on “doing” rather than just on “don’t-ing” not only helps us avoid sin and pursue good, but it presents a better testimony.” I’m with you there, Barbara! And yes to this: “We learn to reflect our Savior by beholding Him…” If we focus on what God wants us to do it is much easier to avoid the don’ts and live a more balanced, joyful life. Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #TellHisStory.

  5. the don’ts are usually because of bad theology and legalism, unfortunately. there is MUCH freedom in Christ and He has such grace and mercy for us. Yes we need to follow the commandments and laws but the two commandments that are the greatest (Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind; and Love your neighbor as yourself) will automatically take care of the rest if we are truly representing Christ well and following those two. I taught my daughters that we are to live for an audience of One. that is it! And the man made rules are just that: man’s rules. We were in a church when they were little that actually taught that wearing short skirts was a sin as was going to public school!!! This is one reason we left it. Among many others that was just NOT core BIbilcal Truths. there are preferences (modern songs vs classic hymns, organ, vs. bands) convictions (drinking wine vs abstaining) and core Bibilcal truths that actually matter. (no premarital sex, no adultery, accept Jesus as Lord and Savior, Jesus is coming again, He was resurrected, etc). So sad when people focus on the man made bad theology. What a great post Barbara!!

    • Thanks, Faith. Sometimes it’s a faulty theology, sometimes it’s just a wrong balance. But either way, once we start leaning the wrong way it skews our whole outlook.

  6. A terrific and timely post, Barbara. It’s difficult enough to deal with the stereotypes of Christians. I like your phrase “balance of focus” as we strive to be obedient and not close off opportunity for conversation and interaction with those who don’t yet believe.

    • Thanks, Lisa. We need both the dos and the don’ts, but a emphasis on the don’ts can affect our own walk, our outlook, and our ministry to others in a negative way.

  7. Such wonderful words. I was drawn in by the idea of “doing and don’t-ing”. I remember growing up in a church that concentrated only on the “don’t-ing”. It was what I knew and I really didn’t think there was another way. However, now that I have grown in my understanding and relationship with God, I see how much He wants us to do things that bless Him and the Kingdom. It’s a much easier way of looking at things.

    • Thank you, Mary. Though we need both dos and don’ts, having doing as our primary focus is so much better in so many ways. When we are actively pursuing what God wants us to do, that seems to eliminate a lot of “don’ts” as a matter of course. But when we’re so focused on what we’re not supposed to do, somehow we forget the things we are supposed to be doing.

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