Legacy of an Adopted Child

November is National Adoption Month, so I’d like to take at least a couple of posts to highlight adoption. Today I want to share a poem that touched my heart, and later I want to highlight how adoption has impacted our family.

I first saw this in a Dear Abby column some years ago, cut it out — and just found it again last week.

Legacy of an Adopted Child

Once there were two women who never knew each other,
One you do not remember — the other you call Mother.

Two different lives shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star — the other became your sun.

The first gave you life and the second taught you to live in it.
The first gave you a need for love and the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality; the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent; the other gave you an aim.

One gave you emotions; The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile; the other dried your tears.

One gave you up – It was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me through your tears the age old question through the years:
Heredity or Environment – Which are you the product of?

Neither my darling, neither –
Just two different kinds of love.

~ Author Unknown

I’m not naive enough to think that all children placed for adoption are given in love: I have known people who adopted or were foster parents to children from abusive situations. But even then, the gift of life, allowing that child a chance to live in a loving family, to grow up, experience life, and become a productive adult, is always a better answer than abortion.

5 thoughts on “Legacy of an Adopted Child

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  3. I am not so sure. Unwanted children often pay their birth with a cruel dead afterwards ! Starved, beaten to death, strangled, or even stabbed. We had the case here of a “mother” who stabbed her 4 small children one after the other, because her husband had left her.

  4. There are always “bad” stories about adoption to contend with. But just because there are some bad stories, doesn’t mean that adoption shouldn’t be the ultimate preferred choice. Not a single one of us knows how our life is going to end or what will be contained in it. Any one of us is full of potential and any one of us are in a position to experience great hardship and heart ache – adopted or otherwise.

    We talk with my (adopted) son about his multiple mommies. He has his birth mommy, his foster mommy and now me. (He occasionally asks about Mommy #4 but I always insist that I remain the last, if possible.)😉 We tell him he is very special because he had so many mommies to love him. It’s not a bad thing, it is just what is and it is unique and how God designed for his life to look.

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