So I have been a mother-in-law one whole week already. So far, so good. 🙂 It seems unreal that Jason has been married a week now.
There has been an odd sensation of waiting for him to come home, in the evenings, especially. Always before when he was out with Mittu he came home at night, so Mama Hen didn’t go to bed til everyone was back home and doors were locked for the night. The first few nights there was just this odd sensation of waiting for him and of course realizing he has a new home now. There have been a few pangs of missing him, but mostly there has been joy for the both of them. I’m just glad they’re living close by. I do feel bad for Mittu’s mom — the only time I “lost it” during the wedding reception was when she said she was alone now and started crying — then I started crying as we hugged each other. She does have a wonderful church family and a number of Indian friends and family, so she’s not totally alone, but it’s not quite the same. We Moms know the day is coming when we send our little chickadees out of the nest on their own, and we know that’s how it is supposed to be, but it is still an adjustment.
Since he is our first child to be married and since we never lived near either set of parents, this is new territory for us. We want them to feel generally free to come over any time but don’t want them to feel obligated. I hope we can continue our Sunday dinners together with them and Grandma, but we’ll understand, especially as they start a new Sunday School class for young marrieds and make friends there, that they might want to get together with others some times. And, of course, they will just want to be alone together some times.
It will probably take us a while to settle into new rhythm of a new normal. But they’ve had fun this week setting up housekeeping and we’ve had fun vicariously as they did.
This week Jason reluctantly has to go back to work. He’s wishing they could follow the Old Testament injunction that a husband not “be charged with any business” for the first year of marriage (We know a couple who actually did that: they went camping for their whole first year of marriage.)
Jim heads back to his first full week back as well, and Jesse starts school Friday. Odd, I know, to start on a Friday, but it is just a half-day run-through so they have their books and know their places and can start in full-fledged the next Monday.
I have mixed emotions about school starting. I love the laid-back pace of summer and hate the thought of the regular weekly/monthly schedule getting full again. But I am about ready to get back into a routine, and I’ll love getting my seven hours of quiet back. 🙂
Quilly mentioned the other day that I’ve had a lot of life events going on; Jason’s birthday, then an out-of-town trip and his wedding, then Jeremy’s birthday. We have more to come with getting ready for school and then my birthday coming up on Friday, then we have a bit of a respite til Jesse’s in September. I call mid-July through mid-September our birthday season as all of us except Jim, and now Mittu, have our birthdays in that time period. Then our church is having a reception for Jason and Mittu Sunday night.
We got Jesse’s school supplies set: now one day this week I need to take him over to the uniform store to get new pants — 45 or so minutes away, unfortunately. His shirts fit, but his legs keep growing. 😀 I was supposed to take him for his driver’s test and to get his eyes and mine checked during the summer. I may try to squeeze those in this week.
I start the week with a dentist’s visit for a cleaning — no fun! Hopefully it will just be a cleaning and they won’t find anything that needs work. Then amidst the getting-ready-for school activities I am hoping to get a start on my sewing/craft/guest room. A few times over the summer I was itching to get some of those things organized but kept telling myself I may as well wait til I got ready to move it all into the new room. I’m searching for a work table, a white bookcase, and trying to decide on a futon, daybed, or sofa-sleeper for a place to sit and for overnight guests to sleep. My preference would be for the sofa-sleeper….but that is, I think, the most expensive option and may not be plausible.
And I have three book reviews I agreed to do, besides the ones I do just for fun — I’ve read one of the books, one is waiting for me, and one should be coming soon. And there is my lingering list of things to do…like those curtains I still haven’t gotten to…
So it looks like I have plenty to do to keep busy in the next several days!